R's sister makes me crazy. She called this morning for an update on R's uncle. I told her what was happening. She wanted to know if my aunt had wanted R's mother, my aunt's sister to be there.
"Yeah, she did."
"Well, why didn't you call?"
Ummmm...in what way do I have that responsibility? Seems to me that when your sister calls you FIRST, that would be an indication that she needs you. R's mother doesn't drive. There was no way we had the time to drive to get her and bring her up...R's sister should have been doing that.
"If you would have called, I'd have called my customers and rescheduled. I'd have brought Mom up, but we didn't think it was bad and were waiting to hear." (We called R's mother last night when we got home - there was still plenty of time for her to get to the hospital.)
Well, DUH! What part of 10% chance of survival didn't you understand? What part of massive cerebral hemorrhage wasn't clear?
"Mom didn't think that Mary even wanted her there."
Come ON, people! Don't you remember what it's like when a close relative dies? You want EVERYBODY there to share your grief. It's easier with numbers. But, at the same time, you don't want to be selfish and disrupt everyone's day-to-day lives.
Besides, the friggin' phone lines work both ways. Does it make your heart and ego feel better because you can try to blame me for not calling?
I don't accept your guilt. Kiss my ass, Pam.
/end rant.
3 comments:
Sounds like serious case of the guilts to me. Something she will have to live with, not you.
How is the rest of the family holding up?
I agree with Trace, it's her own guilt and she's trying to stick it on someone else. Good for you for not "going there" Kate!
I'm so glad you didn't take it personal. Some people are so stinkin' selfish and how dare she try to blame you.
Are you holding up ok? And R?
I'm sending prayers for all.
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