I hate Saturday nights. I've hated them almost consistantly for 33 years with few exceptions. Why do I hate them? Because a Saturday night is a social night in some form or another, but I happen to have a spouse who just considers them another night.
Of course there are exceptions, but sadly, they are few and far between. When one works in the retail grocery business, as my spouse does, weekend work is a given. Weekends are when the rest of the world gets to socialize. Or so it seems!
Now, I wouldn't object to staying home on Saturday night if we occasionally had people over, or had people over without it becoming a big huge fuss. I like to play board games and cards, or watch movies. And, he doesn't mind it *once it's began*, but it's the getting *to* it that becomes such a hassle that I've just given up on having guests.
And, I don't mind staying at home if there was even interaction between the two of us. But, he's very much a TV sports junkie and the moment he gets home from work, the TV goes on and gets changed to some sports network...or is flipped between whatever games are on. We eat in front of the television (Boo, hiss) and he concedes the remote to me long enough to watch the evening news and Wheel of Fortune. Then the channel flipping begins again. If I want at least the companionship of another body in the room, I give him back the remote unless there's a program on I definitely want to see. If he's not interested, he's off to the basement family room to watch sports on the TV down there.
Tonight I wanted the companionship, so I handed him back the remote. He said he'd be watching football. I said, "Fine, I'm going to either be knitting right here, or running back and forth between the couch and computer. No problem."
But, then he fell asleep while I was checking my email. And snored. And snored. And when I went back to the living room to knit some more (I have a project I need to finish as soon as possible), I eased the remote away from him and changed the channel to something I found palatable. Within a minute, he had snapped the recliner back to a sitting position and was headed off to the basement to watch more sports, glaring at me because I'd had the audacity to change his channel "that he was watching". Uh huh. Yeah, right. He's got a good TV screen behind those eyelids! LOL
No matter what anyone says, Saturday night is still "going out night". Try finding someone to chat with on the computer. Most couples still use Saturday night as some kind of "reconnection" night. They're not generally on line for extended time periods!
But, I still check periodically to see if by some chance some one else is bored and looking for company too! And I listen with envy on Monday morning when I hear my coworkers and friends talk about what fun they had over the weekend.
PS. Yes, I do go out alone at times; if he doesn't want to go, then he's more than welcome to stay at home. But, I also have a thing about being a "third wheel" when invited out. There are very few couples I'm comfortable at hanging around with knowing that Saturday nights are "date nights" for them on most occasions.
Some future lifetime I'll have the Saturday nights I'd love to have.
Kate
8 comments:
Join the club lady! My hubby doesn't watch sports as much, but he gets home from work, takes off his shoes and plugs into the idiot box. End of story till bedtime.
I try not to b*tch during the week as I know he's tired. And if he has to work saturdays, which is more often than not, then I just plan things for monstergirl and myself. But if he's actually off, then I try to leave things open. A classic example of our saturday together days..... he gets up, turns on the 'puter, plays video games for awhile, then announces he wants to go into town 'later'. Later turns out to be dinner time so monstergirl and i sit here all day waiting for dad.
I have no one around that I can go and do things with so it gets a tad dull. I would love to have people over for cards or to meet to go out somewhere.
Tell ya what! We should find the exact middle point between our houses and hit the road! LOL
Tracey said:
Tell ya what! We should find the exact middle point between our houses and hit the road! LOL
Hey that works for me! The thing that really gets to me, though, is when we have discussed doing something "prior" to Saturday night, like go see a movie we are both interested in. And that damned sports gets in the way *every* time. Then a couple of days later, I hear, "Oh, yeah, we were going to go to the movies, weren't we?" And I do a slow burn. "Don't you want to go tonight?" Sheesh...during the week is when meetings and all other stuff gets crowded in - NOT my idea of when to squeeze social stuff in!
That is a dilemma Kate. I love getting together with friends to play cards and board games, but I haven't done it in years. My current hubby isn't "into" that. Sadly, I've learned to do my socializing without him, and partake in my sisters' and girlfriends' company which, by the way, I am so grateful for. :)
If you and the Tracer are close enough to meet halfway, I'm engorged with jealousy. I would LOVE to meet you two. :)
Maybe a solution for you would be to see if hubby would concede to a once a month Saturday night of socializing, without him grumbling about it?
My hubby claims that he's tired of being around people all week and that he needs the quiet time on the weekends. I understand that, I really do. But i'm in the house, by myself all the damn time. I need socialization.
I have offered to get a job, and i'm told don't bother you don't make enough to pay for child care if you work at night. (he will not watch the monsterkid.....claims it's babysitting)So I told him I want to start going back to school. But there isn't a community college within a 50 mile radius of me that carries the classes I want. I am not one to go shopping all the time. So i'm stumped.
Argh! We need a small fortune so we can just jump flights every now and then and do a girl's weekend! :)
Oh man that would be so nice! :)
We need teleportation so we can ALL meet up!
I LIKE board games too! Chess, Charades, Trivial Pursuit, Scrabble...the works.
That sucks about the hubbies, ladies...I think I drove Jess nuts by being TOO active. LOL Though I still think she thought of me as a lazy bum..Go figure! (Can't win for losing, hunh?)
I'm trying to think if we can work out an online-meet-up-for-games kinda thing? There are online game sites that have various board games and card games, aren't there?
Anyone out there play pinochle?
Orion
I used to play pinochle years ago but I've forgotten how it works!
I really think we should figure out that blogfest thing. We'd have so much fun!
I would LOVE to manage a blogfest type of meetup!
I suck at card games. People have tried to teach me various games and I just don't 'get' them.
As for a game site type of thing.... I have no clue if theres a site out there that you could do that on.
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